Raising future kings and queens – what could be easier and, at the same time, more difficult? On the one hand, royal mothers have special assistants and nannies who make the difficult life of parents easier, as well as the opportunity to educate their children in the best schools and institutions in the UK. On the other hand, such high expectations that the public has for the children of monarchs can turn into enormous stress for both parents and their babies. After all, these children, who today are smiling sweetly and waving to reporters, tomorrow will become the face of the British monarchy.
Are there any special rules that the heirs to the throne must follow from a very young age? Definitely yes. But today we will talk not so much about the royal protocol as about the human factor. After all, like any other mother, Kate Middleton wants her children to grow up, above all, worthy people. What principles does she adhere to in the process of raising her kids, and what habits does she try to instill in them?
You should talk openly about your feelings.
Kate Middleton believes that the ability to express your feelings and emotions openly is one of the basic characteristics of a full-fledged and healthy person, so she tries to teach this to her children. She in every possible way encourages her kids to tell their mother how they feel, what worries them. At the same time, she tells them that you can experience any emotion – and there is nothing shameful or wrong in this. Kate herself tries to set a positive example for children: she shares with them stories about her feelings and tries to explain to them the nature of those emotions that they may not have had time to experience themselves, but have witnessed how these emotions are shown by other people.
There should be no forbidden topics
According to the Duchess of Cambridge, trusting and honest communication on various topics is the key to good relationships with children. If the kids have questions, then you need to be able to competently answer them, and not laugh it off or translate the topic. And for the children of monarchs, questions arise especially often, because they grow up in a slightly different world than their peers. So that they do not feel lonely or lost, Kate always tries to explain to her kids how they should act in certain situations and why they are sometimes expected to do something special. As conservative as the royal family may seem, Kate is not at all afraid of honest communication with her children on difficult topics.
Royal dress code must be followed
However, there are some formal rules adopted in the royal family that Kate Middleton has to teach her children, regardless of whether she wants to or not. For example, all young male heirs must wear shorts instead of long trousers until they are 8 years old. Ignoring this rule is considered a serious dress code violation. Of course, times are changing, and today many people wear clothes that, just a few decades ago, seemed completely unacceptable. But in these matters, the royal family prefers to stick to tradition. There is a whole set of rules for the royal dress code, and yet the most important thing is that the outfits of royal persons should be stylish.
You can’t open gifts on Christmas morning.
While most children around the world open their Christmas (or New Year’s) gifts as soon as they wake up, the British royal family follows a slightly different tradition. On the morning after Christmas, the Windsors attend a service at St. Mary Magdalene in Sandringham, so even if children are allowed to open gifts at dawn, they will still not have time to enjoy them. But this is not the main reason why such a ban is in effect.
This is due to an old tradition that the royal family follows to this day. There is a gala dinner at Christmas. After that, the parents go to the room where the tree stands and ring the Christmas bell – this is a signal for the children to run and open their gifts. The ringing of a bell must be one of the sweetest sounds in the world for young George, Charlotte, and Louis.
Creative freedom needs to be encouraged
Kate Middleton is convinced that you need to encourage any creative impulses of your children – especially if they are associated with creating something with their own hands. For example, on the Queen’s 91st birthday, the older children of the Cambridge couple presented their grandmother with handmade gifts. According to my mother, they really enjoyed the process of creating them. Kate also often invites the kids to help her in the kitchen when she prepares the sweet treats that Charlotte and George love so much. Children are enthusiastic about cooking and baking biscuits and rice crispy cakes under the guidance of their mother. Keith admits that cooking with children often goes wrong and often leads to a terrible mess in the kitchen. But this can be tolerated because doing something with the kids is great happiness.
Children must learn to be independent
Some parents are used to being very protective of their children. It seems to them that if they are not there, something irreparable may happen. However, Kate Middleton believes that children should be taught to be independent and encouraged to discover the world for themselves. In her opinion, the right parenting strategy is to set a good example for your children and then watch how they cope on their own. Sometimes you need to overcome yourself and allow your child to make mistakes in order to help him become an independent and responsible person in the future
Always remember self-respect
Of course, children should learn to share with others, but – according to the Duchess of Cambridge – a dose of healthy selfishness sometimes does not hurt. For example, if a child is playing with the rest of the children, and suddenly someone takes the toy away from him, it is perfectly normal to ask for it back. There is nothing wrong with not wanting your things taken from you. At the same time, Kate teaches her children to do this without aggression and hysteria. She is convinced that a simple “please” and an explanation of her position can be much more effective in achieving what she wants. In such cases, the child must learn to defend his principles and beliefs. And not feel guilty about it.
Making music with children
Scientists have long proven that music has a beneficial effect on the development of a child. Therefore, Duchess Kate actively instills in her children a love for various musical instruments. In addition to the benefits of playing music, she admits that it’s just a lot of fun to sing and dance in the palace with her children. I wonder what kind of music the young heirs to the throne prefer?
Encourage children to look for what they like
So that your children can understand what activities they have a soul for, you need to give them the opportunity to get acquainted with completely different hobbies. Duchess Keith believes that forcing a child to do certain things is completely wrong. This can lead to the opposite results from those expected by parents: the baby will feel unhappy and stop striving to learn something new.
Therefore, the Duchess of Cambridge supports her son George’s passion for motorcycles, airplanes, and helicopters. Although, as she herself admits, these hobbies scare her a little – especially motorcycles. She also fully supports daughter Charlotte’s pursuit of horse riding, despite the fact that she herself has never been a fan of the sport
Finish eating at the same time as a grandma
The next rule applies exclusively to the traditions of the royal family. At the meals the Queen takes part in, everyone should remember that once Her Majesty has laid down her cutlery, you should follow her example. Regardless of whether you are full or not, this rule must be followed strictly. Of course, this is not easy for children to understand. But Kate Middleton has been trying to instill this habit in her kids since childhood, because – anyway – they are part of the royal family. And centuries-old traditions are its foundation.
Monitor your posture
The Duchess of Cambridge also teaches George and Charlotte to keep their backs straight. After all, no one wants to see stooped princes and princesses, right? Therefore, if children forget about posture, their mother gently reminds them of this. In addition, the children of monarchs should not keep their hands in their pockets when they appear in public.
Take a special training on media relations
If you are a prince or princess, you will have to go through fairly detailed training on interaction with the media before you leave Kensington Palace. At a minimum, you should know how to behave when photographers start taking pictures of you. Recently, Kate and William began teaching their little one etiquette on their own. And as we can tell from the photographs and videos, George has already mastered the so-called “Windsor wave” – a greeting gesture used by members of the royal family. He must have inherited this from his father, as Prince William learned to wave his hand like a king when he was just 18 months old
Learn several foreign languages from childhood
Most members of the royal family speak foreign languages: for example, the Queen speaks excellent French, Prince Philip can speak French and German, Prince Harry speaks Arabic, Prince William speaks French and (Welsh) Welsh, and Prince Charles speaks Welsh and German. Thus, proficiency in at least one foreign language is a prerequisite for the next heirs to the throne in Britain.
And, of course, the sooner you start teaching your children a foreign language, the easier it will be for them later. So Prince George and Princess Charlotte have recently started learning Spanish. And there is reason to expect that as soon as they master it, they will start learning another language.
Special “educational days”
While the children of Cambridge can learn a lot from their parents and mentors without ever leaving Kensington Palace, Kate Middleton hosts special “education days” outside the home. For example, she goes with children to various exhibitions, introduces them to history and art. And, apparently, Charlotte and George really like it. Kate said that the young prince was greatly impressed by the sculptures displayed at the Natural History Museum in London.
Teach children to be grateful
Some people think that the children of monarchs are very spoiled, that they take all the gifts of fate for granted. However, from childhood, Kate Middleton teaches her children to treat everything they have with gratitude. Young George and Charlotte (and maybe already Louis) know that they should always show gratitude when presented with a gift. They understand the importance of the word thank you. For example, when Barack Obama and his wife visited Kensington Palace, they specially brought a rocking horse for Prince George. And a little boy came out to them in his pajamas, despite the late hour, to thank them.